Want to take part?
Get involved
Diary entries cover a variety of topics, some of which you may find triggering. These topics include self-harm, suicide and domestic violence.
29 Jun 2023
Q&A

Jenny D

What do you think would be an adequate monthly income for you and your household?

What would be an adequate monthly income? I guess that would depend on your definition of adequate? I'd like to not dread the school holidays wondering how I'm going to entertain and feed my child day in, day out for weeks on end. Avoiding the other mums at school drop off and pick up as I dread the question, 'What are your plans for the summer? They share news of trips to Disney land, all-inclusive luxury foreign trips or resort hopping cruises.

Living in an affluent area of a city where my child is one of a handful described as 'pupil premium' i.e. coming from a low-income family. I feel a constant sense of shame of the secret I hide. The real reason I turn down birthday invitations isn't because we have a hectic social life but the fact that I can't afford to cough up for birthday gifts week after week. The panic that my child subsequently expects to be able to invite his whole year group to a magician, bubble artist, face-painter, inflatable, disco frenzy with a bespoke, professionally made cake and eye watering party bags for all guests plus siblings! What's the cost to not burst that bubble?

Cite this entry

Use Jenny D's words in your own research or editorial
Changing Realities (2023), Jenny D. https://changingrealities.org/e/S4BjH (29 Jun 2023)
Loading comments...